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How to Avoid a Flatting Disaster

Moving into a flat can be an exciting time for any teenager. You finally get to have a slice of independence, have your own room, and begin your life of adulthood. When you meet your flatmates everything seems great at first and they seem so wonderful to live with. But soon enough you’ll realise there are many types of flatmates out there that are difficult to live with. The friendly atmosphere can come crashing down at any minute.

While I was at University I learnt that flatting can sometimes be a nightmare, different personalities clash, and some people just don’t see eye to eye. It can be rather scary adjusting to a new city, a new job, and living with strangers/friends. So what can you do when you get bad flat mates? How can you keep the peace? Over the years there are a few things that I’ve learnt. Here we go:

  1. Choose Carefully

Sometimes you might not always be so lucky to share a flat with people you know so well or get to meet them first. Especially if you’re studying and desperate for a flat. If you are looking for a flat look at the job advertisement first. This will usually have keywords like respectful, considerate and so on. Do you fit what they’re searching for? Then again if you’re searching for a new flatmate a good question can be, tell me a bit about yourself? If they don’t meet the criteria or if they send off negative signals, pay attention! Once you sign a 12 month contract, or a long flat contract, that’s a long time to live with people you aren’t so fond of.

If my experiences have taught me anything it’s that you should never live with (some) friends. Even if you think you know them things can turn ugly. Until that person is in your face 24/7 and you start to see their flaws you might be in for a big shock. You eventually have to learn how to stand up for yourself otherwise you get walked all over. There can be tantrums, arguments, and all sorts and you really wonder why on earth you agreed to live with that person in the first place! It’s just not worth ruining a friendship by living together. Then again it’s not all doom and gloom! Living with some friends has been a breeze. We got along well because we were similar people, I suppose that’s what it comes down to.

2. Hang Out

If there are different cultures and people in a flat it can be really good to just hang out with each other (if you want to). My friends and I would cook dinner together once a week and have a good old chat. We would bake some muffins or go to the movies. Celebrating birthdays was also another big thing! If you happen to be living with strangers there are a few things that can break the ice. I remember watching TV shows with a girl I had just met and eating junk food together. Perfect. There are always going to be people you just instantly click with. Another great way to get to know people is to have a gathering, some call it a flat warming. It gives people a chance to bring their friends round and just chill out. Anyone for cheese and crackers? Yum.

3. Have a Cleaning System that Everyone Agrees on

dirty-dishesWhen there is a system failure in a flat it usually comes down to cleaning. People eventually end up yelling, “Did you do the dishes, did you REALLY do the dishes?” These type of people will leave a mess everywhere. Their room has a stench in it that is slowly wafting down the hallway, and you’re terrified to even think about what is under their bed. As a rule of basic hygiene if you make a mess you clean up that mess. You’d be surprised at how many people cannot do this.

I’ve seen people leave unspeakable things in the toilet, on the toilet floor, and on top of the toilet yet they just leave it there even after they are politely asked to clean it. WHY. Were these people not potty trained early in life? Have they no decency? I admit I’m a tidy person but that does not mean I want to clean up disgusting things. It doesn’t matter if you’re lazy or if you have different levels of hygiene in the flat it’s a team effort. Anyway, morale of the story is that you should try to lay out some ground rules for cleaning. Maybe a roster (if there are like 8 people in one flat) or a quick chat as soon as you move into a flat to see what works for everyone. Otherwise the arguments over cleaning will never end.

3. Be Considerate of Others

You’ve just settled into bed and you’re about to fall asleep, when BAM loud music starts playing and the house starts shaking. When you have to get up early for work the next day or you have an exam what can you do? If you’re losing sleep it can cause bloodshot eyes and grumpiness. Not good. It’s all about the golden rule; be considerate. It’s handy to know when people in the flat work, when they need their sleep, and when it’s appropriate to have friends round. Say for instance if there are quiet people in a flat versus loud and outgoing ones it can be a bit of a clash. If people continue to be inconsiderate and throw loud parties and you don’t like it, perhaps that flat culture isn’t the right one for you.

A Happy Home is a Good Home

There are some big clues as to when a flat is not a good place to live. It really isn’t worth staying somewhere that makes you feel like you have to hide in your room or avoid other people. I’ve met some really cool people while flatting, and others just don’t gel so well together. Flatting can be really fun when you find the right people to do it with.

I hope this helps anyone who might be flatting for the first time, or anyone struggling who is on the verge of tears. If you do end up living in a bad flat hopefully one day you can look back and laugh about it. After all flatting is only temporary. One day you’ll have your own place and it’ll be pure bliss.

Big City Big Dreams

The bright lights, the smell of a new city, and a fresh start. By day downtown is the heart of this booming city. Cups of coffee, greeting friends with a smile, and a biscuit in one hand. Crumbs fall on my lap as I watch the people go by in the street. A lady asks for peoples signatures to support a protest. People sit on corners of the street with their eyes closed as they play their instruments. The melody echoes down the road right into my ears and it’s a lovely sound. I give some coins to the man who is content with just himself and his music. Pop up stalls and passionate people with a cause often linger around. One group tells a crowd about the ice melting in Antarctica. I am approached and given some sort of new 3D gadget, where you watch the documentary in virtual reality. Things jump up on the screen and a polar bear is just a few meters away from my vision. I take the device off and squint at the sky. Then I am back to reality and hike up Queen Street here is a tip; do not wear heels up that steep hill.

lights

At night time Auckland is full of decorations where the trees are covered in lantern lights and drops of light sprinkle the streets. The Sky Tower stands proudly in the center of the city. I remember having dinner in the Orbit restaurant where the place rotated once every hour. It was a wonderful view alongside a good steak, but I did get distracted by the spinning it was very amusing. In town an ice rink sees a crowd of people fumbling around trying to ice skate, but they have a fun time anyway. I glance at all the shops as I wander by. Quirky coffee shops are hidden on each corner, food and more food is everywhere. There is so much to choose from how can I not feel greedy with all the options? Finding my local place to go is a must; a pub, or hang out spot. It is something special to have a little getaway.

 Straight Outta University

Some people travel and others get the chance to do what they enjoy. Others may relax or work for awhile to reach their goals. There are many times when I have gotten the common question after studying:

What are you going to do now?

Well I can tell you what happened it occurred in a bit of a blur. I packed my suitcase and was off. My lovely regular customers were shocked to hear I was leaving. The ones who come in at the exact same time every morning with the usual set of groceries. I was wished good luck by family and friends. I heaved my suitcase that weighed a couple of rock, and landed in Auckland. I’m happy to have joined the team at Prominence as a Content Writer. You can even view my little welcome blog here. I’ve learnt the team are a cool bunch of people to work with and a cute office dog often visits. I think my fascination with Star Trek, Star Wars, and cups of tea has helped me fit in a bit.

When it comes down to it, I have do that whole “grown up” thing of making wise choice and standing on my own two feet. I did get a bit lost on my first day and was feeling a bit mortified but I am getting better. Embarrassment is all a part of it right? In saying that I did just drop some food on myself while writing this. So if you are eating and typing do it with caution. Anyway, I think I’ve done a good job of surviving when I was a student. What do I refer to myself as now? A graduate? Still figuring out bus routes? No longer can I purchase a student movie ticket which means I am on the path to officially being a young adult. I have being equipped with knowledge from those who have it. The adult world is a step up but not all so different. It still includes multi-tasking, coffee, and grades on performance.

New Dot On the Map

I have lived in many places including England, New Plymouth, and Wellington. It is Auckland’s turn this time. I have visited this city yet never pictured myself living here. Now I am another one to add to the population of one `million and it continues to grow. By 2020 the population is estimated to reach at least four million. We will all have to squeeze into this city where everything is at a persons fingertips. I still feel like I’m on holiday and will be leaving soon it’s a strange thing. The best part is the chance to explore and wander as far as I want to. I’m still doing some sightseeing and finding quirky things in the area.I am off and out into the real world where people can be harsh, but really they are just being honest.

I bumped into a friend today out of all the places it was a sense of something familiar. Although I rushed to a new town I am having a good time so far. It can be overwhelming sometimes, but it is comforting to know home is never to far away.